Hari Oh Hari! What a family reunion in Ooty



Narahari has always invited us to his place in Ooty, and this time decided to host a family reunion. Rama missed and Brinda just missed this unforgettable cousin’s reunion. In the midst of a wonderful time, everyone missed the elders in Bangalore, Girish, cousins in the USA and UK. We would have enjoyed more ‘bigly’ were more cousins able to join up.
I will write mostly about the delectable delicacies the cook manifested, as that interest is what the bloodline gifts most of us! There was some sightseeing to the Dodda Betta (highest point in the nilgiris), and the ‘in full bloom’ massive rose garden which was memorable mainly because not many had ever gone in a group of 20 family members as a tourist group. The range of ages, heights, weights, world views, style, demeanor, the differences were stark, however, kinship among cousins was easy, relaxed and affectionate.
As early as possible was Hari’s insistence and like good folks would, all headed out of Bangalore before the crack of dawn. First stop was an A2B, where the multi-dish breakfast combo was the preferred order. Combination included masala dosa, Idli, upma, Pongal and sajjige, on the whole it was a good breakfast that went down with good old filter coffee.
The uneventful climb with a tender coconut stop followed closely with the inevitable bio-break brought us to a really cool Ooty. Jayashree’s stories from her recent readings regaled us through the journey. Hari had provided large luxurious cars so we travelled in comfort. The house is atop a hill with killer views on three sides, lush tea gardens, meandering roads, mountain peaks and crisp cool air. Lovely!
 I started this with the intent of describing every meal in a language you would find on the menu card of a fancy restaurant, but alas, my memory is rusty and memories that result in saliva production must be restrained and not allowed to go on for long.

Masala Dosa with Masala that has more Potato than onions, low on spice, high on cooking butter and topping butter, fresh off the tava was for Sunday breakfast. Just one of the things on the breakfast menu, ‘cause there was no meal that did not have a flavorful unique perfectly made sweet.  Hyagriva, Carrot Halwa, Pineapple Jilebi, Patato Halwa, Dried figs holige, glassly kashi Halwa. Don’t add to the list if you were there, as that would make you a greater foodie than I am, whereas you are actually more into health! Stop. Re-read the list of sweets.
The crispy mixed vegetables, herekai bajji, or the Ambode for the evening snack were tasty, spicy, perfectly fried stuff served during the very cool evenings while endless card games, laughter and unpurposed conversations went on and some wine went in. Vatsala’s tales from real and imagined naldurga history and her interest in everyone was inspiring, so was her level of physical fitness and attitude.  Shubha’s boys, Aishwarya, and Achala all added energy and wit to the evening get together.
Chappati and Super coconut filled mixed vegetable sagu, Bissibelle Bath with a variety of accompaniments, Hot rotund puris with many spicy and sweet things to enjoy with, Saaru, Huli, Papads to suit the specific dishes, and not forgetting the hot coffee and tea at 6 am that was the meeting point where everyone trudged out to from the many rooms they occupied in Narahari’s house and the neighboring Ravi’s place. Morning walks through wooded areas was happiness. Dr. Pradeep who must have gone home wondering about ‘naldurga’ idiosyncrasies, was deep into photographing birds of the winged type and able to see/hear stuff others could not. Hearing the rustle of a bird, maybe some Naldurga kids can!
Apart from what the cook from Bangalore prepared for us, there were two cakes one for Aishwarya who became a teenager and for Ranjani in absentia. That reminds me about Jayashree’s eagerness and overflowing love to wish her daughter in law without being intrusive on her time.  Unending supply of kurkulu and murukulu, the yumm, addictive and sinful fried stuff was always available including in the cars! Prasad had brought some packets of I don’t know what, Soumya barfi from VB Bakery, then there were chocolates that Vatsala had brought, Kalpana’s Karachi biscuits, and so on
By the way, all the food I mentioned was consumed in two days only! Now that is credit to all of us who must have put on a few kilograms over a weekend.
Sunanda was the perfect hostess, always with a smile and ensuring perfection. Our hosts Sunanda and Hari provided a great holiday with immense warmth, affection and love, that was what actually made all the food tastier, apart from the best ingredients, super cook, and the chill of Ooty. I am ready for one more such gluttonous, relaxed trip, what about you?








Honey, it is only about money!

‘I am poor’ or ‘I don’t have that kind of money’. That is relative because I am still better off than most of India. There is nothing to fear. There is absolutely no expectation from you that is built into this statement…no loan that will not be repaid, nor a freebie or a gimme that stems from an entitlement syndrome. My relative poverty is neither a badge to flaunt nor something to be ashamed of. It is a simple statement of fact or my perception.  It is the result of choices I have made and maybe ‘luck’ or some such undefinable factors in equal measure. While I am well adjusted to my economic conditions, I find many of the rich (relatively!) narcissistic and finding difficulty in interpersonal relationships with poorer relatives and friends from a time when the economic difference was not so pronounced.

old money/ new money behaviour is real and it exists, however, I think it is more about culture or the lack of it than money itself.

While I am comfortable in my economic status, I am also a social being, which brings to the fore comparisons by me or those around me and that can trigger an Adam/Eve moment about money!